A Contrast of Two Leaders


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In 3 John 9-12 we find a contrast between two leaders in a fledgling community of Christ followers. Diotrephes is the negative example and Demetrius is the positive one. 3 John 9 says, “I have written something to the church, but Diotrephes, who likes to put himself first, does not acknowledge our authority.” The verb translated “to put himself first” is used only here in the New Testament and literally means “a love for having the highest rank or position.” Because Diotrephes held this attitude he could not acknowledge John’s apostolic authority, nor probably anyone else’s.

If you love to be first, it is going to be really difficult to acknowledge anyone else as a valid authority in your life.

There is a severe consequence to this kind of attitude.

You cannot give away power and you ultimately cannot multiply your own leadership.

I believe that the first job of every leader is to raise up more leaders. But you cannot do that without empowering others. John goes on to note that Diotrephes also did not welcome the brothers, and even tried to prevent others within the body from doing so. Most likely these “brothers” were traveling teachers, fellow laborers who circulated through the early church, helping to build up the body of believers. This too was probably a threat to Diotrephes’ desire to be first.

Another consequence of the attitude of preeminence is that you are unable to partner.

If you cannot recognize the contribution of others then you cannot partner with them for the greater cause of Christ. Diotrephes could not recognize the authority of others. Nor could he welcome the worthy contributions of others.

In contrast, John says that Demetrius “has a good reputation from everyone, and from the truth itself.” Demetrius seems to be held up as an example of a good leader to imitate. But who is this Demetrius? The only other reference we have in the New Testament of a man with this name is in Acts 19. The Demetrius described in the book of Acts was a silver smith who started a riot over the preaching of Paul in Ephesus. He did so because Paul threatened his business of idol making with his preaching of Jesus. We don’t know for sure if this is the same man. But John is most likely addressing this letter to the same general region geographically. If this is the same Demetrius then we have a picture of a radical transformation. The one who opposed Paul and caused a riot was now seen as a Christian leader with an outstanding reputation–one worthy of imitation.

Who do you want to be?

This is the only mention of Diotrephes in the Bible. This is not a legacy you should long for. We must realize that all authority is derived authority and submit our leadership to the lordship of Christ. That is the starting point. That position is what will allow us to honor and welcome others within the body of Christ. It is this attitude that will allow us to empower others and partner well.

7 replies
  1. Andy Wood
    Andy Wood says:

    What a rich comparison, Gary! And I really appreciate the Ephesus link as well – such a strategic center throughout the NT.

    I once heard someone say of another brother – someone I actually liked a lot – “his only problem is he LOVES to be in charge.” I had never heard that said of someone else. When our ambitions are solely pointed to what we see in the mirror, we cease to become leaders, and have become users instead.

    • Gary Runn
      Gary Runn says:

      Thanks Andy for your kind comments. I like your principle a lot, “When our ambitions are solely pointed to what we see in the mirror, we cease to become leaders, and have become users instead.” Well said!

  2. Jay Link
    Jay Link says:

    I have been intrigued by the contrast between these two individuals for a while. Thanks for making the distinctions so clear. Very helpful.


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