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What is Fairness?

Posted on April 20, 2012 | 4 Comments

I rarely write about social/cultural issues on this blog but I have been bothered during this political season about the concept of “fairness.” This term is being used frequently by our President as leverage for raising taxes on the rich-that they might pay “their fair share.”  It is being used as a common refrain by the Republican party as a counter attack about the “50%” of the population that pay no tax at all-”is that fair?”

What is fairness?  How are we to think on that word and therefore decide who is telling the truth.  ”Fairness” according to Merriam-Webster is something which is marked by “impartiality and honesty-free from self interest, prejudice or favoritism.”  At least that is one central piece of the definition.  And it is this piece that I think is missing in the debate.  I’m sorry, but I don’t really trust either side when it comes to impartiality and honesty.  I don’t believe that either side does not have some self interest, prejudice or favoritism at stake in this matter.  Apparently many Americans share my point of view.  In the most recent RealClearPolitics poll, 78% of Americans disapprove of the job that Congress is doing.  According to RCP polls Americans are split right down the middle on the President’s job approval-47% approve and 47% disapprove.  Confidence is waning.

Fairness, as it is being bandied about in political circles today, is arbitrary.  What is fair for one does not seem fair for another.  It is idealogical in nature.  And I have never seen a political landscape so divided along idealogical lines in my lifetime.  We are being hoodwinked into thinking about “fairness” when we should be considering “justice.”

“Justice” as it is defined by Merriam-Webster means “the administration of law” and “conformity to truth, fact or reason.”  Justice has a measuring line.  Justice has a standard.  Justice forces you to determine where you truly are in the argument.  It is not arbitrary-at least not be definition.  And therein lies the problem with human fairness or justice.  We are inherently unfair and unjust.  We are arbitrary about all things because we are inherently selfish and self preserving.

To have true “fairness” and “justice” there has to be a true standard.  A universal standard.  There has to be a universal law and lawgiver that is righteous-so that justice can prevail.

Consider the following from the Bible:  Romans 3:22-26                                                   For there is no distinction: for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God, and are justified by his grace as a gift, through the redemption that is in Christ Jesus, whom God put forward as a propitiation by his blood, to be received by faith.  This was to show God’s righteousness, because in his divine forbearance he passed over former sins.  It was to show his righteousness at the present time, so that he might be just and the justifier of the one who has faith in Jesus.

To rise above our self centeredness we have to admit our need for the just law giver who graciously provided our redemption through the cross.  We will never get to “fair” or “just” any other way.

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5 for Leadership

Posted on March 15, 2012 | Leave a comment

Here is “5 for Leadership” for the 3rd week in March. I hope you will be informed and encouraged.

One Thing Every Young Leader Needs To Hear This is a post from Ben Reed and was found on Millenialleader.com. This is a web site aimed directly at the Millennial generation of leaders and quite insightful. Ben is a pastor in Tennessee and offers some good thoughts for young leaders-and one phrase of encouragement they must hear. By the way, Ben’s web site is worth a look too and the link is at the bottom of the post.

Why I am Leaving Goldman Sachs This is an oped piece from the NY Times. The author is Greg Smith who has been an Executive Director with Goldman-until today. This is worth the read and has been trending on Facebook and Twitter. I love how it speaks to leadership culture and integrity.

6 Characteristics of Spiritual Leaders I often highlight what Michael Hyatt writes. If you missed this post this week-here’s a second chance. Hyatt distinguishes between spiritual leadership and other forms of organizational leadership and then offers six functions or traits of a true spiritual leader.

Good Churchmanship This comes from Tim Challies, who is well known in reformed circles. I really enjoy his blog and is one of the few to which I subscribe. Tim is a thoughtful writer and I really like this post that compares sportsmanship with churchmanship-and what has been lost with both concepts. This is a good read for the leader and follower.

The Empire of Entitlement This final post is from Pete Wilson who is the pastor at Cross Point Church in Nashville. Pete writes a great exhortation about the dangers of our culture of entitlement-and how it can really threaten our leadership. He highlights Deuteronomy 8 and reminds us well that there is one God-and it is not us.

There are 5 for this week-lead well!


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Changing America

Posted on September 11, 2011 | 2 Comments

I have been back in the States for exactly eight weeks.  My family and I spent the past five years living in Florence, Italy.  For some time now, we have all heard how fast culture is changing.  The rate of change is astounding and can leave you wondering how you will ever functionally survive.  I thought I would take some time to share my initial observations on what has changed in America since I left in 2006.  Mind you, these are just my impressions-I have nothing to factually back these up.  Some of it is meant to be light hearted-some of it is meant to stir your thinking.

TV sets have become exponentially bigger, while, for some reason, soft drink cans have become exponentially smaller.

The cereal isle at the grocery store use to take up only half the shelf space-now, apparently, we need something like 113 brands that take up the whole aisle.  Do we really need that much cereal?!?

Taco Bell is still reconfiguring the same five ingredients and giving it a new name as a brand new fast food creation.  (This represents only a change in creative marketing.)

Any food concoction at a restaurant claiming to be Italian, isn’t.  Trust me. (The change here is that we no longer have 1st generation Italians to keep it right)

Restaurant prices and used car prices have increased significantly while we were gone-all other things seem to have remained about the same.  I guess this means that we will soon have to drive really old cars and eat only at home-hmmm, sounds like my childhood-which wasn’t all bad.

In the church world the “distributive model” has become all the rage.  And we have become even more casual in our dress for church-my grandmother would have “had a fit.”  (I was never sure what a “fit” was-but she said it a lot)

Due to the economic debacle of 2008 it is almost impossible to get a mortgage loan now-not because the money is not there or institutions don’t want to lend it-but because of all the new lending regulations.  My loan officer knows things about me I didn’t know.  I think the lawmakers targeted the wrong audience in their zeal for protection.

American pop culture (meaning movies, music, TV, etc.) has become even more mindless and hedonistic.  The problem I see is more and more people think these broadcast messages  represent real life.  We seem to value entertainment and pleasure over substance and character more than ever.

There seems to be a profound sense of fear and growing hopelessness among our populous.  The three recurrent themes I hear behind this are global terrorism, economic gloom and a government that is unable to govern.  These three might represent three of our most significant idols as Americans: security, wealth and democracy.

The one, never changing constant:  We are still a people in need of a Savior.

I will have more observations as we continue to transition back to our home country.  And maybe they will be more profound and more accurate-maybe.  What do you think has changed in the last five years?  Please comment.

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The Culture of Horn Honking

Posted on June 26, 2011 | 4 Comments

This is simply meant to be a light-hearted post–nothing worthy of deep thought or reflection.  I am an American who lives in Italy and just returned from a 13 day visit to India.  I am fascinated by different cultures and how societies work.  You can often pick up on differences by how different cultures utilize similar means. For this post I will explore the use of the car horn.

In the U.S. I will argue that Americans largely use their horns to warn or complain. We honk when we want to make people aware of danger.  We honk when we feel a great wrong has been done to us on the road.  Someone has violated the law (as we see it) or someone has made us very angry with their driving methods.  But on the whole (maybe apart from New York City) we are not a culture that regularly communicates through our car horns.  That is different from Italy and India.

I have lived in Italy for the past five years.  And now we are actually in transition to return to our home culture in the U.S.  Italians love their cars and their car horns.  It was a little unsettling when we first moved here to constantly hear car horns.  My observation is that Italians use the horn as a regular means of communication-but mainly out of being annoyed.  If you wait more than two seconds after a traffic light has turned green, you will get a long blast from a car horn behind you.  Italians are a very passionate people.  Therefore their communication is passionate as well-verbally and through their car horns.  But it doesn’t mean anything negative.  They simply express their “in the moment” feelings readily.  The car horn is just an extension of their present feelings.  You have to understand this here or you will think everyone is simply rude.  But they are not-they are just temporarily annoyed with you and letting you know-you can still be best friends and enjoy a cappuccino together.

India has almost a billion people.  Apparently, every one of them owns a car.  I have never seen this kind of traffic or heard so many horns in my life.  But my observation is that the communication pattern is different.  Americans honk out of anger and “injustice.”  Italians honk out of annoyance and to simply express their temporary emotion.  Indians see driving like Americans see snow skiing.  At least this is my grid for understanding their “car honking” culture.  It is like an American snow skier simply saying “on your left” or “on your right.”  Skiing etiquette dictates that you let the skier in front of you know that you are about to pass them on the hill and to let them know which side you are on.  I think it is the same way for Indians.  They drive all over the road and use any lane available to them-no matter which way the direction of traffic is suppose to be going.  But they will clearly let you know that they are “on your left” or “on your right.”  Their facial expressions never change-for the honker or the one being honked at.  The trucks even have hand painted signs on the back that say “please honk.”  They are not angry or annoyed.  They are not informing you of some law you have broken.  They are just using skiing etiquette.  For the passive passenger-like me-the whole experience can be quite frightening and confusing.  But once you see how skilled the average Indian driver is to navigate traffic in his own context-and you see more clearly the “horn honking culture” at work-you can relax-a little!    That is just how I see it.

Here’s to life in the fast lane, going the same direction, seat belts buckled, using our horns to their greatest end!

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Idolatry & Society

Posted on March 12, 2011 | 1 Comment

About a week ago I posed a question on Facebook: How does idolatry in any form impact a society?  I have been pondering this for a while.

Random House defines idolatry in two ways.  The first definition is the one that naturally comes to mind-”the religious worship of idols.”  And this is where we tend to leave our notions of idolatry-completely in the religious realm among an unsofisticated people group.  But the other definition is “excessive or blind adoration, reverence or devotion.”  This is the definition that has me thinking about every person’s idolatry and the collective effect on a society.  I hold a conviction that every person on the planet was created to worship-and therefore we will demonstrate our adoration, reverence or devotion towards someone or something.  I think this is actually quite observable.  Simply monitor over time where people put their time, energy and money.  You will end up at their object of worship.  And I believe that whatever we worship helps to shape our character and has a profound impact on all those with whom we interact.  Therefore a society will be impacted by that which we give our reverence and devotion to.  I received several responses to my Facebook question.  There were some really thoughtful and challenging comments.  Here is a glimpse at my thought process so far.

1. We will adore that which we worship. I would argue by definition that if we give our devotion and reverence towards a concept, an object, a person, or a pursuit-that rightfully it will turn into a passion.  So if we align out time, talent and energy towards making money-we will eventually love money.  If we give ourselves completely to success, we will feel jaded if we don’t achieve it-like an illusive lover.

2. We will defend that which we worship. Once we have tasted that which we have longed for it is almost impossible to go back.  So if our object of worship feels threatened then we will defend it with all that we have.  I have seen this with men who make sex their god.  It is amazing to see the extent some will go in pursuit and defense of their idol.  Sometimes we glamorize those who do this with a principle-like the pursuit of freedom.  That seems like a worthy devotion.  As Americans we even call it an inalienable right.  Yet, as good as it is, there have been some pretty heinous things done in the name of freedom.  True?

3. We become like that which we worship. Here is the harshest reality.  Devotion over time brings conformity.  It’s why we observe old married couples looking so much alike.  The problem lies when our devotion is aimed at inanimate objects or concepts.  Becoming like money or sex or even freedom is not pretty.  The Bible in Psalm 135 says, “The idols of the nations are silver and gold,
the work of human hands.  They have mouths, but do not speak; they have eyes, but do not see; they have ears, but do not hear, nor is there any breath in their mouths.  Those who make them become like them,
so do all who trust in them!”

So how does this impact a society?  I’m not totally sure.  This is what I am still thinking about.  But I believe that if there truly is a Creator and we are the created-then to worship other creations instead of the Creator will only lead to competition, selfish ambition, confusion, and injustice.  Read the headlines any given day.  Our worship has to go somewhere.  If it goes towards a perfect Creator then we have the ability to express His love, justice, mercy and compassion-for His sake alone.  If it goes towards something less-we can only express our limitations in broken ways.

I’m still in process . . . what are your thoughts?

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Why a Society Falls-The True Sins of Sodom

Posted on September 15, 2010 | Leave a comment

What causes a people or society to fall?  There has been speculation for ages. Historians, philosophers, and sociologists have all weighed in on some of the world’s great dynasties and speculated as to their ultimate demise.  But maybe one of our greatest hints is found in the Bible.

Consider Sodom and Gomorrah.  While they may not represent political dynasties the names of these two cities has become synonymous with corrupt behavior.   Anyone who knows the biblical story knows that these cities are destroyed by God because of their unrighteousness.  Sodom is first mentioned in Genesis 10-but most prominently shows up in Genesis 13.  In v.13 the writer says, “Now the men of Sodom were wicked, great sinners against the Lord.”  In Genesis 18 Abraham tries to intercede on behalf of the people of Sodom-God tells him that if he can find even ten righteous men then He will spare the city from destruction.  But there are not even ten.  And in Genesis 19 God rains down sulphur and fire on these two cities and all of their inhabitants in judgment.  It is often noted that the primary sin of this city was homosexuality-or at least blatant sexual immorality.  But is that truly what lies at the foundation of God’s wrath towards this city?  We have to look elsewhere in the Bible to find the answer.

We have to turn to the prophets to ascertain a better answer.  In Ezekiel 16 we find the foundational elements that led to the demise of Sodom.  In Ezekiel 16:49 we read this, “Behold, this was the guilt of your sister Sodom: she and her daughters had pride, excess of food, and prosperous ease, but did not aid the poor and needy.”  Notice the progression: pride, excess, and ease.  A whole people were labeled with these characteristics.  Pride is thinking too highly of yourself. Excess is holding on to too much of yourself.  And ease is freeing yourself from all constraint-such as labor or pain.  This led to thinking too little about the less fortunate among them. And it led to what we read in Genesis 18-19.  This sinful cocktail led to total debauchery expressed through sexual immorality-and to God’s righteous judgment.

There has to be some careful consideration here-both personally and as a people. How do I rank in light of these foundational sins?  What is my opinion of myself? Am I a hoarder or a giver?  Do I worship at the table of comfort and ease?  What is my attitude towards the poor and needy?  Do my lusts act as a mirror regarding these things?  What about us as a nation?  Or any nation?  What is our corporate attitude in these areas?  Are you and I in danger of a great fall?  Is our country? Let us run to the grace of the gospel.

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Are We Worth More Than Five Euros?

Posted on July 26, 2010 | 3 Comments

I suppose the exercise was innocent enough-but it was certainly short sided. A few weeks ago my 12 year old son completed a basketball camp here in Italy. He has played on the same club team for four years and he is the only foreigner on his team. In all honesty he is of average skill on the court. Based on talent I would place him in about the middle of his 20 player squad. His greatest strength is his defense. He excels in this-but is often not recognized for his ability to cover well. We felt like this camp would really help him in his skills and in gaining fresh confidence.

Towards the end of the week long camp the coach decided to conduct an NBA style draft to choose three teams. Three captains were chosen (the three best or most popular players). Each captain was given 500 Euros in fake money to select whom he wished to be a part of his team-needing to out bid the other two captains for any particular player. My son was chosen last for the minimum price of 5 Euros. We learned this as we were driving home from the camp-it was the second thing he mentioned when we asked him how the week had gone. Being 12 years old my son has learned a little in how to manage some of his disappointments living in Italy as an outsider. He still spoke positively of the rest of the week-what he had learned-the relational time hanging out with the guys. But I knew this was deeply wounding. As soon as the words came out of his mouth I had a profound sense of anger, empathy and helplessness. I quickly recalled a time in my own life when I was eight years old and being chosen last for a playground game at school. No one ever wants to be chosen last and it never, ever feels good. We found out later that none of the other captains even wanted him-so the final captain was forced to take him at the minimum price.

I have lived in this country long enough to know that this was more about not being Italian than it was about talent. I think all cultures are like this to a greater or lesser degree. So this is not a post to rant on Italy and it’s lack of social acceptance. This episode caused me to reflect more deeply on the worth of something. The world is constantly placing a value on our existence. And usually it has far more to do with our perceived beauty, status, or utilitarian benefit. I struggle with this all the time. Like all of us I want to be liked and well thought of. I want to be significant in other people’s eyes. I want to matter. But every time I try and find this sense of worth and value as a broken person from a broken world-I only end up more empty and deeply disappointed. In those moments I am in need of a different perspective-a different value base from which I can live. In Deuteronomy 26:18 Yahweh tells Israel that He “has declared today that you are a people for His treasured possession”. Peter says something very similar in the New Testament that applies to all who truly follow Christ. In chapter two he states that we are “living stones rejected by men but precious in the sight of God”. He goes on to say, “But you are a chosen race, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, a people for His own possession”. Peter is using Old Testament language to communicate an eternal truth. Our worth in God’s sight is inestimable. We matter so much to Him that He paid the price of His perfect Son to redeem us from our sin and imperfection. That is a value beyond talent, status, or beauty.

My son and I have talked through the basketball camp scenario a few times. I still have not figured out the best way to help him see his true value in Christ. At 12 years old where you fit in the pecking order of a sports team still really matters. I still hurt for him every time I think about this episode. I want to be able to rescue him from all of the world’s harsh ways-but I can’t. There is One who is our ultimate Rescuer who has proclaimed that we are His treasured possession. You and I are worth more that five Euros to the God of the universe. Whose estimation will you and I live from today?

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The Vatican Under Fire and Moral Authority

Posted on April 5, 2010 | 2 Comments

The headlines each day carry something related to the Catholic Church being under enormous pressure in light of the sexual abuse charges by priests around the world.   I live in Italy-the vortex of the Catholic world.  On the whole, Italians are suspicious of the Catholic Church.  I often hear university students speak of the prime minister, the mafia, and the Catholic church being in cahoots together regarding all things Italian.  At best, the Catholic Church is seen by most Italians as irrelevant to the lives of everyday people.  And honestly, they have over 1000 years of history to validate some of their claims.  Over Easter many parishioners were bothered that Pope Benedict did not mention the scandals at all.  People want to know what happened on his watch while a Cardinal in Germany.  Some pundits have already claimed that this is the end of the Catholic Church.  I don’t pretend to know about the demise of the Catholic Church-I do know that the cathedrals here are more empty than full these days.  But I actually believe that the current controversy is a primary lesson in leadership.  The Pope is losing moral authority.

Leadership is about influence and always includes authority.  In leadership there are two possibilities regarding authority-moral authority and structured authority.  Structured authority is that authority which comes with position or title.  People follow and obey largely because they have to.  Moral authority-or what I like to call granted authority-is that authority which is given to you by your followers because they want to follow and obey you.  Structured authority goes with the title or position-the other type is earned-every day.  Leaders earn granted authority through their authenticity and character.  And it comes just as much from admitting mistakes and dealing with real problems as it does from making progress in the mission or seeing success.  As the elected head of the Catholic Church Pope Benedict has structured authority-but he is quickly losing moral or granted authority.  People may continue to “follow” by code of conduct or association-but he is currently aiding the abiding notion that the Catholic Church is irrelevant by not acting in a more determined way towards these abuses.  God will preserve His Church-by that I mean the whole body of Christ.  But I am saddened that people may miss Jesus because of the church.

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The Net Result of Socialism

Posted on March 22, 2010 | 4 Comments

The U.S. Congress has passed health care legislation.  Now what?  What are the ramifications and where are we headed as a democracy?  Let me say that I am not one that believes all was right with the U.S. health care system prior to this legislation.  There were certainly things to be fixed.  It will be some time before we truly know the impact of this legislation on our current health care system-but my actual concern lies elsewhere.  What kind of nation are we becoming?  The philosophy of government that has brought us to this point is much more troubling to me than the actual bill that was passed.  Is this a significant step towards socialism?  I am not sure-it feels that way-certainly many conservative pundits are telling us that this is huge move toward becoming a socialist country.

I currently live in Florence, Italy.  Italy is a socialist country through and through.  It is still a democracy-but a social democracy.  Italy has “universal health care.”  Italians receive most all of their health care “free of charge”.  Prescriptions are largely “free”.  Of course most Italians are taxed at a 40% tax rate-so the concept of “free” is somewhat of a myth.  But here is the kicker-unless you have a life threatening situation you enter the cue.  In other words it is not uncommon to have to wait anywhere from three to six months to see a physician or have a medical procedure done.  You get “in line” with all the other Italians who need health care and you wait.  The government determines your need and timing-not you.  This has become so problematic to Italians that a private health care system has grown up beside the social system.  Several months ago I needed to have a sports hernia surgery done-I was in pain.  It was not life threatening-but it was certainly uncomfortable and greatly limited my normal activity.  We found a surgeon and he told me that I could have the operation through the social system in about six months-or I could see him under the private system and have the surgery in a week.  Guess which option I chose.  Guess which option most Italians are choosing if they can afford to do so.  There is a thriving private health care industry along side the socialist one-because the social one is so inefficient and removes the decision making from the patient.  So sadly many Italians pay a 40% tax rate and still have to pay for medical procedures to get them done in a timely fashion.  By the way-contrary to Michael Moore, the situation is not different in most European nations.  I have friends in the UK and France and the end result is largely the same.

But here is my greater concern.  What is the net affect of socialism on a people?  These are only my observations and opinions.  And I must say that I have only lived in this country for four years.  But my ministry is to university students and I talk to them often.  And I talk to adults often too through many of my kids settings.  Here are the results I see from an over taxed, over regulated, socialist nation:

1. The middle class is rapidly disappearing. Sadly, in every society, no matter what form of government they have, there will always be the rich and the poor.  Scripture even declares that we will always have the poor with us.  There is no such thing as legislated fiscal equality.  But historically it has been the middle class that provides the ability, good will, and generosity to help the poor.  If you eliminate the middle class you are left with a feudal society with very clear haves and have nots.

2. Lawlessness and inefficiency greatly increase. Italy estimated last year that over 6 billion euros were lost in unpaid taxes.  Is that a surprise?  If you have a tax rate at 40% or above-anyone with money will try and find every means they can to circumvent the system-legal or illegal.  In this case most of the tax dodging is illegal-hiding money in Swiss accounts.  And the inefficiency is stifling at times.  Anything related to the government is usually a three plus trip encounter.  There simply is not reason or will to genuinely serve.

3. Hope is a fleeting attitude. Italians will quickly tell you that “the beautiful life” is gone in Italian society.  Students have very little hope of getting a job in their field or ever owning their own home.  Therefore there is a significant “brain drain” going on it Italy.  The best and brightest are fleeing to anywhere that provides them with better opportunity and a true chance to succeed on their own merit.

4. There is no impetus for change. There is a lot of complaining but very little impetus for change.  Status quo is the order of the day.  So while Italy is certainly not 3rd world-it is definitely old world.  I have rarely seen so many protests and strikes in one country-but at the end of the day most Italians will tell you it is simply a national sport-because nothing will really change.  When you take away creativity and an entrepreneurial spirit from a society you kill it’s will.  That is what I see on a regular basis here.

Again, these are just my observations and opinions.  Others certainly will feel differently.

In the midst of this I have to say that my hope is not in a government-at least I hope I can say that honestly.  God is still on His throne.  I do believe that the gospel shines brightest in darkness.  I do believe that the gospel is going to have great inroads in Italy because of the current fabric of society.  That may need to become more and more true in the U.S. as well.

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Fast Coffee-Slow Food

Posted on December 29, 2009 | Leave a comment



I have noticed many cultural differences between the U.S. and Italy. One notable one is how important relationships are here in Italy and how they are conducted. I call it the “fast coffee/slow food” connection. Most realize that in the U.S. we have developed a “slow coffee/fast food” culture. Over the past 50 years we Americans have moved towards a fragmented family, dietary nightmare called “fast food”. Meals are taken as quickly as possible or only for strategic purposes-thus why families rarely eat together and the invention of the “power lunch.” But over the past 10 years and the advent of Starbucks we have also begun to develop a “slow coffee” culture. The coffee shop mentality has returned in the U.S. This is often where we catch up with people-even our children at times. And followups to the power lunch have now become the “power coffee” appointments. Yet I have to admit that Starbucks can be quite loud and distracting-while I love their coffee, the very environment can threaten my ability to really connect at a deeper level.

In Italy-they do the opposite. There are caffe bars on almost every corner. They are small-often with only a counter bar. You enter, you order your espresso or cappuccino, you pay and you leave. The whole experience may take less than five minutes. Ah-but meals-that is a very different story. There is “riposo”-a pause from work for a two to three hour lunch. And the evening meal often lasts two to three hours also. Italians take their food and their meals very seriously. Meals are done in a very particular order for dietary purposes. Every region has its own specialties that are not to be missed. But more than that-life is done around the table. Relationships are nurtured around the table. The largest room in our 800 year old home is the dining room. You take acquaintances and colleagues to coffee-you have meals with your true friends and family.

We have noticed that doing ministry in Italy requires trust and time. This is a suspicious, non trusting culture-and for some historically good reasons. But we have also noticed that the walls drop and trust is built in the home around the dining room table. Conversations go much deeper and spiritual truth is better received around the table. While Italians are certainly known for loud, boisterous conversations-there is an inescapable focus that takes place. There is one conversation, even if five people are having it at the same time. We rarely conduct ministry events these days without food and a home setting.

I know a lot of ministry happens in Starbucks these days in the U.S.-but I wonder how much of it is still “hit and run” ministry. I think I like the “fast coffee/slow food” environment of Italy better. For one the food is amazing-but so are the opportunities to take time to demonstrate the love of Christ. Invest in someone over a long, slow meal!

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